Starting Up Startup Marriage



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On June 21st, 2011 we (Amy Batchelor and Brad Feld) celebrated our 18th year of being married. Like any couple, we’ve had our ups and downs, but we feel like we’ve figured a lot of things out. As a result, we’ve decided to write a book called “Startup Marriage: Balancing Entrepreneurship and Relationship.”

Today we find ourselves in Paris on the first day of a two month “mini-sabbatical.” We are spending July in Paris and August in Tuscany. For the past decade, we’ve spent the month of July at our house in Homer, Alaska – we thought we’d try something different this year.

Our goal with this mini-sabbatical is to be together 24 hours a day for two months, explore two fascinating places together, write a first draft of Startup Marriage, and continue to do our regular work, just from a remote location with no travel. Oh – and eat a lot of amazing food.

We’ve decided to co-write this blog in the spirit of Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project. Gretchen and The Happiness Project are an inspiration for us and hopefully we’ll be able to produce something pertaining to entrepreneurship and relationship that is as amazing as what she has done around happiness.

Of course, we encourage anyone that is interested in this to follow along, comment on this blog, or email us about anything that is on your mind concerning entrepreneurship and relationship.


  • http://meometer.com Geoffrey

    I’m excited to hear about this project.

    My wife Colette, who gets to interact with Amy pretty regularly, shares some of the techniques you both use to craft relationship balance in the wildness of entrepreneurial environments.

    I’d share my two favourites if I didn’t think they were spoilers.

    As a couple together for 10 years we’ve collectively been impressed with your thoughtfulness in relationship.

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Please share! Don’t worry about being a spoiler – there are no surprises here. Just lots of fun and good suggestions.

      • http://meometer.com Geoffrey

        Sure.

        1) Life Dinners. Connecting in fully at the monthly standing dinner date, where nothing is as important as the one sitting across the table.

        2) Monthly Gifts. She told me about your practice, and I never realized how powerful a gift is as a token of affection until after finding an empty snail shell and handing it to her in Florida I saw it again in Colorado on her desk.

        One of Colette’s, by the way, is Off the Grid Week. Getting the little (and wonderful) distracting devices out of sight and mind for a time.

  • pescatello

    Really excited to see what you guys write. I’m an entrepreneur and my wife works at a startup too (over at Gloo) here in Boulder so the more advice you can give, the better. Thanks for starting it up.

  • http://www.roomtoroom.org Colette

    I’ve been looking forward to this book since you told me about it a couple of years back Amy! I’m jazzed to hear the wheels are in motion, YaHooooo!-

    Hope you guys have a fabulous time writing it together.

    Hugs from Boulder

  • http://twitter.com/DieselLaws Diesel Laws

    Brilliant idea Brad (and Amy)! My wife Flic and I are both developing startups (Barkles.com is me) and my wife is working on a Dance Style Startup (evixa.com) so I look forward to reading this!

    If I can give one tip for couples:

    Communicate every day – in depth. The more you can talk together about the good, bad and future plans the better it is for everyone.

    Look forward to following along!

    - Diesel Laws